Pivots. Changes. Transitions. Moves. Separation.

Tired? Overwhelmed?  Stuck?  Directionless?  Paralyzed?  Scared? 

NOW WHAT?

CHANGE happens.  And it happens often.   It is how you react to change that drives your wild thoughts, your rollercoaster of emotions, and your ability to move forward and look at the choices.  So, what is next?

First.  PAUSE.   Reflect on what exactly is taking place.  

QTIP – quit taking it personally.

Do a little mindful work and observe your thoughts.  Ask yourself, is that true?  What actually happened?   What part of the change is outside your control?  What things can you control?    FEEL.  Emotions are good.   They are signs for you to understand what is taking place.   Anger. Fear. Uncertainty.   These can be insights into next steps.   It is ok to marinate in some of the negative for a short while.  You need time to be angry, question, grieve, heal, and step back.  Ask yourself, what do I really want, what do I want to do, what is my next step?

Second.  It is time to take a step forward.   Small steps lead to great progress.  Here is some time for a little exploration.   Ask yourself again, what really happened?  What can I control?  What are my options?  What do I want?

BE OPEN.   BE HONEST.  How can you look at the possibilities of what just changed?  What are my opportunities here?  How can I look at this in a more positive and energetic way?  And why will that help me? How will it make me feel?

When we lift our energies and begin to look at a situation in a different light, through a new lens, it is an opportunity for us to learn more.    You will begin to feel empowered.  Keep asking questions.  What are you learning?  About the change or situation, about yourself, about those around you?

PAUSE AGAIN.  Do something nice for you.  Simmer.  Marinate. It is always a good idea to clear you head, calm emotions, and start with a clean vision.   

Third.  It’s game time.  Let’s create a plan.  I like to keep things simple.  Why – it helps me get it done!   And it allows me to make adjustments as needed.  Set realistic expectations and a way to measure your progress. 

ABC method  has worked well for me. 

A - what is the ideal plan

B -   what is the backup plan

C – backup to the backup or your safety net plan

I am a big believer in small steps lead to great progress.  They are little wins that make you feel productive, capable, and effective.  I am also a big believer in progress over perfection.  Do not get hung up in doing it right.   You have heard, life is a journey, enjoy the experience.   Having been through several life pivots,  I have learned from my experiences, I am on my journey,  I control my thoughts and emotions, I have the power to make choices,  and ONLY I create my best life.  Do you want to be happy or successful?  Success in life is having goals and enjoying the process and experience to complete them.  All events are purposeful.  How you experience your changes are the key to your happiness.  What will you do?

PS Share your goal with someone.  It will help you to keep accountable.  Ask for help where needed.  You will be okay.  You are a warrior.  You are perfectly and uniquely you!