YES. Say NO.

Boundaries mean different things to different people.   What comes up for you when you hear the word boundaries?

Sometimes, not setting needed boundaries, drain you.  They decrease your energy.  They create unnecessary stress.   This is especially true when it comes to interactions.

Most often, setting boundaries is important when it comes our relationships with our family, friends, and work peers.  It is understanding what we can and cannot do.  We all have our limits. 

Boundaries help us create balance; balance helps us enjoy life each day. 

Setting limitations for yourself is a practice of self-care. And self-care is a part of your happiness equation.  Let’s explore.

We all have a diverse definition or practice of setting boundaries.   When do you set boundaries?  When do you need them?  How often do you say yes, when in fact you want to say no???

How does it make you feel?

We are made for a life with boundaries.  They are determined by a rhythm.

Night – Day. Fast – Feasting. Work – Rest. Forgive – Confront. Inhale – Exhale. Wake – Sleep. Day – Night. Receive – Give. Rejoice – Lament.

The word "boundary" can be a bit misleading. It conveys the idea of keeping yourself separate. But boundaries are actually connecting points since they provide healthy rules for navigating relationships, intimate or professional.

Why are they important?

“Personal boundaries are vital in order for us to thrive and be in healthy relationships.  Having them in place allows us to communicate our needs and desires clearly and neatly without the fear of consequences. It is also used so that others do not take advantage of us or allowed to hurt us.  It is a way for us to practice self-care and self-respect.”

Next time you want to say no, YES, say no.   Then, observe how you feel.

Activity:

LIST THE THINGS YOU WANT TO SAY NO TO

Take Action: 

Did you include the words fear or guilt on your list?  So often we spend so much time worrying about whether to say yes or no to a person or an experience that we get lost in the guilt and worry.  It’s ironic since the root of having a hard time saying no is the we are afraid of feeling guilty!  This week follow your gut and practice saying no to the things you don’t have the time, energy, or desire to do.  Skip the guilt phase and enjoy feeling assured of your choices!

Setting boundaries is a practice.  It is a choice.   It also requires change.   If this is an area that needs attention, maybe spending time with a coach can provide some clarity, uncover barriers, and help you create an action plan.   Let’s explore together.  Schedule some time on my calendar for a complimentary get to know you session here.

Thank you for your time and for sharing this email with a friend who may be in need.  I always love connecting and hearing from you.  You can email me at eva@evazmetro.com with any comments or questions.  

Let me know where can I support you?

With love and joy, Eva

 #itsokaytosayno